At four years old, “Rose’s” son, a “highly sensitive” child who gravitated toward females, asked his mother “if he was a boy or a girl.” His mother had raised him so far as fairly “gender neutral” and was prepared with the answer today’s parents are expected to give: “It all depends on what you feel deep inside.” Six months later, this little boy declared he was a girl, wanted his little brother to call him sister, and wanted to use she/her pronouns. Fast-forward four years, and his mother is now speaking out, warning parents not to do what she did.

The Sacred Core: Children Should Lead

Now, this woman is a lesbian, still “married” to her partner, and raising their two sons. She came to realize, however, that her son was not transgender, but that she had viewed everything “different” about her child through the lens of transgender identity and that, by not giving her child the identity of “I am a boy,” she had confused and manipulated her own child into believing that he was a girl.

During an interview1 where she discusses her story, the woman shared something that I thought was very illuminating. Referring to transgender ideology, she said, “This belief system, the heart of it, says that children should lead.” According to trans activists, children—young, impressionable, naive, ignorant—should be the ones leading parents when it comes to who they “really are.” Parents are expected to suspend their questions, concerns, and natural inhibitions to their child’s transition because, of course, the child knows best (and those concerns are just their internalized transphobia, so we’re told!). But consider this verse of Scripture.

1 Corinthians 13:11 KJV – “When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.”

After her first son’s transition, Rose’s second son likewise declared he was a girl, and that was the catalyst that helped her realize neither of her sons was a girl! Rose shared that gender therapists did not “assess” her second son to see if he was “really” transgender (as many people believe these therapists do). Rather, she said “assessment doesn’t exist when you believe someone is innately trans. Assessment is actually in violation of that.” To the gender therapist, Rose’s son was, within seconds, Rose’s daughter and that was that. Again, it’s this “sacred core” belief that children should lead—and no one, not parents, extended family, therapists, or doctors, can question that child’s “identity.”

Train Up a Child

This is so upside down to the way that God commands and counsels parents to raise their children.

Proverbs 22:6 KJV – “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”

Ephesians 6:4 KJV – “And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.”

Proverbs 29:15 KJV – “The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.”

Proverbs 19:18 KJV – “Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying.”

And to how God instructs children to view their parents.

Ephesians 6:1 KJV – “Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.”

Proverbs 1:8–9 KJV – “My son, hear the instruction of thy father, and forsake not the law of thy mother: For they shall be an ornament of grace unto thy head, and chains about thy neck.”

God has raised up men—fathers—to be the heads of their homes, to—along with mothers—lovingly direct, guide, and discipline their children in the ways of the Lord. To lead their families into truth, giving them the proper worldview to understand themselves and the world around them. This is how God has designed the family, and when this is subverted and children lead instead of parents, children become confused, frustrated, and even scared—longing (even if they don’t know it) for the safety of their parents leading them.

They Just Can’t Be Consistent!

Consider the rest of Rose’s story. She writes,

I resolved I would have to put all my own feelings away, and support my transgender child. And that is what I did.

With this one declaration, after months of refusing to tell our son he was a boy, we changed his entire world. We told him he could be a girl. He jumped up and down on the bed, happy, saying, “I’m a girl, I’m a girl!” (What a relief it must have been to him to actually have an identity to hold on to!).

Suddenly, after years of allowing her elder son to lead her when it came to his gender, she told him he was a girl—and he latched right on to it. Rose then initiated changing his name and socially transitioning him. In other words, after believing that her child should be the one in the lead when it came to gender, as soon as he was “transgender,” she began to lead him,and he was relieved—but the road she began to lead him down was a dangerous one that, if by God’s common grace her eyes hadn’t been opened, would have resulted in dangerous puberty blockers, irreversible cross-sex hormones, and countless painful surgeries.

In other words, trans activists believe children should lead in telling adults their “identity.” But, once they do, adults take over and cement that child’s ideas, leading them onto a superhighway littered with pain and regret. It’s an incredibly inconsistent ideology!

You Are Always Leading Your Children

No matter what Rose initially thought when she gave the reins of identity over to her small son, she was always leading. By leaving the question of gender open-ended and letting him choose, she was leading him into confusion and questioning. The woman was leading him away from obvious reality into a land of shadows where biological reality means nothing. No wonder he was confused (and eventually his brother too!)!

And this is the very same thing happening to children every day in public schools and through the secular media. Teachers, social media influencers, cartoon characters, librarians, books, drag queens, and more are telling impressionable young children that biology has no meaning and they can be whatever they want. These people are, whether well-intentioned or not (and many of them are not well-intentioned—they are actively trying to sexualize your children for their own perverse purposes), sowing seeds of confusion in children and leading them toward a destructive lifestyle—all the while claiming that the children are the ones leading.

Parents, you are leading your children. You are either leading them toward life by teaching them what is right and good and true, or you are failing to teach them, and by default, allowing them to make up their own minds and form their own worldview from the world around them. In doing so, you are leading them toward death and destruction.

You are leading your children—are you leading them toward life or death?